Introduction to couples blog series

I have had such a beautiful experience deepening my exploration of archetypal psychology over these past months. It has been a joy to connect with this area of healing through my blog, videos, and work with clients. 

I am excited to share that I will be creating a new blog series around couples therapy with a focus on desire, authentic sexuality, and deepening relationships.

Being in a relationship can be so hard and scary. To be fully open, connected, and real with another being in such a vulnerable way can activate all of our old wounds and fears. This blog series is intended to support you in delving into your fears and learning your own unique patterns and ways in which you have been trying to protect yourself from hurt in your relationship.

Through embracing and honoring our fears, we can transform. Our relationships can transform. And sex too can be transformed. I am constantly in awe of the couples that I have worked with over the years; of the immense ability to heal, to grow, and to delve into the depths of pain, discomfort, and the unknown with another being. 

Once couples have faced these difficulties with intention, openness, and vulnerability, something powerful happens. Couples start to turn towards one another instead of against each other. Couples start to feel more desire and more passion. Relationships that were once tense start to feel playful and nurturing. Sex that was disconnected and mechanical becomes present and deep.

As we begin this journey into relationships, attachment, and sexual healing, take a moment to check in with yourself. What do you notice in your body? What have been your experiences in past relationships? If you are in a relationship, reflect on ways in which you hold yourself back. Notice any fears that come up when you think of being more authentic and vulnerable with your partner. If you and your partner are comfortable, answer the following questions:

• What holds you back from being vulnerable?

• What drew you to each other?

• What do you appreciate and love about your partner?